fromtheash:

LDR relationships are not for me. However, I’m sure there are some wonderful LDR blogs on here!

Suggestions or advice please comment!! Xoxo

*cracks knuckles* Alright. As a chronic serial LDR person, lemme lay it out for you.

LDRs suck. You’ve realized that by now…But you can make it better.

What infinitely helps is planning. Give yourself a light at the end of the tunnel. Plan to meet on long holidays. Scrounge pennies for bus and plane tickets. Make plans. Don’t be afraid to bend over a little bit backwards to make something happen; it’s like digging for gems. It might take you 16 hours a day and you’re going to get dirty, but you’re also going to end up with a fucking gem.

Sometimes I have bad days, and even when my rational brain tells me that he’s also doing his best and that we don’t need to be in contact every second of the 24/7, I can feel neglected. Its natural. When you know that everyone’s trying their best and you feel shitty anyway, don’t ask what they can do for you, ask what you can do for them- usually if I start planning something I want to make for them or do some window shopping for things that I’d want to send them, it makes me feel better. And on that note- do that! Care packages are amazing because they’re cute, they make you feel connected and warm inside, and they remind you guys of how well you know each other. Hand make them a card. Remember some weird detail about their favorite video game or something else that makes them happy? Find a trinket that represents that and send it. Mementos are great because even after the initial positive emotions when you open it, be it months or years later when you see if on a bookshelf or hanging from a keychain, that’s your person, with you. Send a postcard. Send a love letter. Send them cough drops and tissue packs if they’re sick.

Use tech as much as possible. Hook up with snapchat, skype, ect, and send each other five second snap videos talking and make skype dates and stuff. My boyfriend and I have a big thing with movies and TV together- there’s this cool service online called rabb.it which is basically skype but will allow you to broadcast your screen so you can watch netflix together. Though to be honest I watch the film in the little square screen and leave him in the big middle one. We also use an app called Couple on our androids (you can also use your laptop and iphone) that only we can text on- it saves the pictures we send eachother in a memories folder, and there’s cute stuff like a calendar that we share, live doodling, thumbkisses, stickers, ect.

Good morning and good night. Say it faithfully. Even if you had a really bad day, you know that the other person before they go to bed will tell you goodnight and that they care about you and to sleep well and you’ll see each other in the morning.

If you guys have a sex life, keep it alive over the distance in whatever fashion you two roll with. And don’t underestimate the positive power of innocent flirting too.

Laugh often. Keep hope. Dream together. Share everything. BE HONEST. Be reasonable, remember that they’re human too and they hurt being away from you just as much.

You can do this.