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Colin Spacetwinks / spacetwinks @ twitter.com wrote:
(Dec. 22, 2016, starting at 3.44 PM)
i’ll tell you this, bullies didn’t stop bullying me when i gave them everything they wanted, or when i talked to them about my feelings
bullies stopped bullying me when they felt like they had something to lose if they tried to trample me
moreover, bullies were actually more likely to actually listen to me about my feelings, if they felt like they had something to lose first
sometimes people are actually incapable of caring about you as a human being until they’re scared you’ll hit back first
i describe a lot of shit in this like leverage
until you have leverage against your opponent, “good faith debate” is meaninglessif they have nothing to lose by dismissing you and your humanity, then constantly coming to the table trying to convert bigots? pointless
if you sincerely want to reform nazis, then first those nazis have to be scared of you for this to be even possible
people keep linking that piece of that stormfrnt kid who changed his views, but they always gloss over the fact that he himself said-
-that the rejection and shame of his views by the community was IMPORTANT for him to actually consider he was wrong in the first place
This is precisely why it is so important to practice the “HEY. -disapproving and sharply judgemental look-” response to bigoted statements you hear in conversation.
It may not be easy to be That Person who interrupts and “brings things down,” but better to be a moodkiller who reminds people to have respect for others than to remain silent and let them think you agree.
When you can, where you speak, however you can, SPEAK UP.
The Carving Witch 